There are so many cycles and stages to a couples’ relationship that wanting to be on the best path is everyone’s hope. I work with couples in any stage to help increase healthy patterns of communication, and gain a sense of “we do”. Relationships are difficult. We can often find ourselves exhausted in attempts to solve the problems we face in the most important connections of our lives. We want so badly to just fix the problem, that our focus is the problem. We are bogged down in the problem, experiencing intrusive thoughts about the problem, and just being in the problem. Everything in the relationship is affected: connection, communication, intimacy, and relational support. We just want back the feelings and experiences of how our relationship started. We want to feel how easy it was to solve our issues the way we did in the beginning. What were those solutions? What were our strengths? Understanding the root of the problem can help us to find the solutions and strengths that still exist.
Since there are all different types of families, there are different types of family issues. Helping families identify issues, such as yet not limited to, displaced attachment, behavioral concerns, and themes of dysfunction will drive the ability to find the solutions that work to increase relatedness, connectedness, and cohesion. Often times, children and adolescents are acting out for a way of communicating that their home life is symptomatic of relational issues. Communication in these times can be difficult, thus allows the system to break down. I work with families to define individuals needs, and how the family can heal through solutions. When working with children/adolescents family therapy is imperative to bring about the biggest changes. I require family sessions when working with children younger than 6 years of age.
I work with individuals to bring about personal changes to help empower themselves and changes in their worlds. I work with children over the age of 6 years ( see Family Sessions for younger children) to help identify behavioral and emotional concerns. Adolescents often need a space to freely communicate in a non-judgmental environment, as they are forming their own identities within their developmental stage. The reasons listed for children and adolescent therapy may sound familiar to adults needs, as they are related. I work with individuals of varying age to provide individual attention to help a person see a new perspective and implement change from within.